Navigating the Land of Online Sharing

Navigating the Land of Online Sharing

I love sharing stories, pictures, and adventures with everyone in our life and I’m confident that we will be just as excited for our newest adventure into parenthood!

 

But as I pick stories to share I ask Dave first if he is comfortable sharing those details and if he says no then I don’t share them.

 

Early on our children won’t have the ability to say yes or no and while I love sharing a great story I need to respect our child’s privacy early on so THEY can share THEIR STORIES with those they feel comfortable.

 

I’m thankful I grew up before Facebook because I don’t have to worry too much about my family photo album (with descriptions) winding up with complete strangers, employers, or even with my husband to be!

 

When Dave and I were dating my dad threatened to pull out my most embarrassing photos when he was first going to meet Dave 14 years ago. I’m glad that dad never figured out mom’s simple photo album strategy and that I was saved from embarrassment on that first meeting.

 

For Our Kids

 

As we navigate the trenches of parenthood we ask that those in our inner circle DO NOT post pictures of our children online.

 

You can share what we posted already, but please don’t share your own pictures of our kids and please keep anything sent to you in a personal text, group email, or private website to yourself.

 

I mean if you’re swapping stories with your friends in person and want to show a text? Go for it!

 

Showing off pictures to a neighbor? Great!

 

Hitting the share button on our Facebook post so your friends can see it? Sure!

 

Posting about our kid’s birth weigh, length, and full name, even if you’re commenting on one of our posts? Not acceptable.

 

We want our kid’s pictures and information to be private, not shared with the world to meme, harass, or otherwise make fun of or use to harm them in any way.

 

Not only do we want to protect our kids from embarrassment, but we also want to try an limit access to their personal details for example…It seems crazy that the personal details I use to login to my banking information, like name and birthdate are details that are being shared so openly in the excitement of a new baby being born.

 

It’s also crazy to me that I can easily look back to the first day of school and see posts with kids full names, approximate ages, their school, and a picture of what they look like today.

 

While we can’t prevent every criminal or creep from having access to our children… we can make an effort to have the information less accessible.

 

So what about the parents who love to share? Well, first of all, I LOVE seeing that kids and parents come in all shapes, sizes, and sass levels.

 

Your stories help me remember that life is most beautiful when it’s a little bit messy and that family comes from loving each other and laughing with one another.

 

So here are our social media rules for our future Nerd babies…

 

* We do NOT give permission for ANY photos, stories, personal details, or announcements of our children to be put online.

You are welcome to hit the share button on anything we share on social media, but personal pictures (yours or ours) and private details of our kid’s life that you are trusted with are meant for you, the family and friends we want our children to know.

Please understand that legally we have the right to choose what is shared about our kids and we require permission first.

 

* Dave and I pledge to carefully choose the information we share about our children online and we will work to protect their stories even if it’s uncomfortable at times because as parents it’s our job to choose our values and do what we think is best for our kids.

 

* Because I’m the momma and because I said so! <- I’ve always wanted to say that!

 

Thank you for respecting our wishes and thank you for being here on this journey with us!

 

Laura

We’re Pregnant!

We’re Pregnant!

My favorite number is 18.

 

The 18th is my day of birth.

 

We are 18 weeks pregnant with Baby Nerd!

 

AND 2018 is when we will be welcoming Baby Nerd to our family!

 

Tired and Nauseous!  

 

In July on the weekend of our 10 year anniversary we celebrated on our own in Traverse City, MI. Our first bed and breakfast experience, rock hunting, fancy dinner, and cideries were all fabulous!

 

 

In August we celebrated with family (our parents and my sister) on Mackinac Island, MI where we got married.

 

One day we biked 8 miles around the island and another day we walked 12-15 miles (the fitbits couldn’t agree so I will say this… we walked a LOT that day!)

 

On Monday after our trip I slept ALL DAY!

 

And on Tuesday… at 4:04am I realized that it wasn’t the combination of the island’s many smells (horse droppings, breakfast at the diner, and fudge making) that made me nauseous during the weekend. *smiles*

 

How did I tell Dave (aka Super Nerd)?

 

I decided that 4:04am wasn’t the best time to tell Dave we were having a baby so I went back to bed and got him up a little earlier than normal for a Tuesday morning.

 

I made Dave coffee, made sure he was dressed, and asked him to take me to the grocery store for a few items we hadn’t picked up since our weekend trip.

 

I drove us to the store thinking there was still an “expecting moms” parking space… and there wasn’t!

 

So in the grocery store parking lot under the big trees facing Taco Bell and Panera I explained my big plan — coffee, expecting moms sign, and telling him I’m pregnant… to which he gave me a nice side hug (since we were still in the car!) and Dave told me he was excited and thanked me for not waking him up at the crack of dawn!

 

Then Dave asked if we could go get some milk (Wisconsin boy) so we got out of the car for a hug and a kiss before we walked into the grocery store hand in hand.

 

Awwww… isn’t that the most romantic thing ever?

 

After our morning grocery store trip (and announcement) we started our day: work for Dave and laundry for me.

 

We live a glamorous life don’t we?

 

So Laura how do you feel…

 

I would say that tired has been one of my top pregnancy symptoms and while I’m finally not napping ALL DAY LONG… I’m still in need of a slower pace than I’m used to.

My other top symptom has been nausea which has impacted me most with movement.

 

Writing stories on my computer, sorting laundry (all the up and down motion!), and quickly scrolling through pictures from our travels has been something I haven’t been able to do much of in the last few months.

 

And Good News/Bad News — I’ve finally lost a few pesky pounds due to food aversions. Nothing sounds good to eat…still.

 

Cooking has turned into an all-Dave-sport and I’m ready for the magic wand of the second trimester to appear so some of these symptoms can go away!

 

 

 

Tell me about baby!

 

We have chosen the low-tech route for our babe.

 

We have our one ultrasound scheduled about two weeks from now and will be asking the ultrasound tech to put the news of boy or girl into an envelope and we will share at the baby showers in 2018.

 

As far as we know baby is healthy and happy growing. According to my pregnancy apps it should be the size of an artichoke or a croissant this week.

 

So what’s next for the Nerds?

 

Besides our ultrasound I started taking prenatal yoga which has been a great way for me to start focusing more on the amazing baby growing inside me. I love that the class is one part social/therapy time to talk about our pregnancies and one part preparing our bodies for changes as well as labor.

 

 

The biggest stress lately has been surrounding our black lab, Clementine. We think her nose bleeds and inflammation are due to sniffing something up her nose while in the backyard. Our next stop is to the specialty vet surgeon about 45 minutes away. While the extra vet bills weren’t in our plans, we know that Clementine will be a great big sister for Baby Nerd, she has had lots of practice with our nephew – he is training her with toddler snuggles and Cheerios, so basically he’s lab’s best friend!

 

Mid-December we start gathering with our family to celebrate Christmas and hopefully I will be able to share more of our travels here at Nerd and Super Nerd as my nausea and fatigue settle down.

 

In early 2018 we will just be finishing up projects like finish tiling the master bathroom which should have been done by now had Dave’s side kick (me) not been too tired to help.

 

We will also continue our “nesting phase” of decluttering our 10 years of house stuff and sorting through everything from kitchen stuff to paperwork to clothes.

 

Side note: It’s amazing how easy it is for me to donate clothes that don’t fit me right now… yay for growing for all the right reasons!

 

In February I’m hoping we can celebrate my birthday weekend somewhere with snow, a cozy fireplace, and a few books.

 

We are talking about baby showers in March (Wisconsin family and Michigan family) and preparing for baby to arrive in early May!

 

All in all we have more projects than firm plans from now until our cutie arrives.

 

That’s our Nerd update!

 

We hope you’re enjoying the Christmas season!

 

We would appreciate prayers for Baby Nerd, Dave, Laura, and Clementine and we pray that your family is well!

 

Laura

 

P.S. While we plan to continue sharing OUR stories about our Nerd and Super Nerds adventures, we won’t be sharing much about our baby Nerd. If you want more details you can head over here to read more about it!